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Confused and have a question
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 11:15am
So, Here is the story. MY friends band had a show and the bass player couldnt make it.He plays in other bands and has been a bit flakey as far as doing shows and making practice. So, they asked me to fill in for the show.I learned 30 songs in 1 week to do this show.(which was approx 2 hours away).I did the show and made very few mistakes.They asked me to do the next show and sent me an email saying they wanted me to be the new bass player.I did another show with them this weekend which went real well.The singer pretty much runs the band (which I am fine with as my last band I did it and don't want to do it again).
Anyway,They booked 3 more shows for September.At the show this weekend the singer told me that she had already promised the old bass player that he could do one of the shows.She said she wanted me to come out and do some songs too.To me this is odd and it is like I am sitting in with the band I am in.I think she should have told him that he has been replaced and that if it was cool with me he could sit in on a few.
I am not sure how I feel about this.
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 11:36am
#2
welcome to ubp
who is getting
welcome to ubp
who is getting paid?
if I'm getting paid, someone else can play as much as they want
I think I'd ask who the band's bass player is though
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 11:39am
#3
Id tell them sure, but its a
Id tell them sure, but its a one time deal. You dont need to share the bass duty with some dude who is going to be flaky. Let this one slide (it will give you time to drink and hit on chicks) and if they try it again say thanks for the opportunity, I think im going to find another band that doesnt put me in awkward situations.
then eat a CSS.
rock.
DDD
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 12:08pm
#4
Confused
oldfclefer wrote:
It seems he will be getting paid for the show and I will get to sit in with my own band for a few tunes
welcome to ubp
who is getting paid?
if I'm getting paid, someone else can play as much as they want
I think I'd ask who the band's bass player is though
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 12:10pm
#5
Sit or get off the pot
I'd tell them they need to make a decision; otherwise there's bound to be drama.
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 1:23pm
#6
Confused
Exactly. and the other bass player wants to meet me..I find all this to be weird
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 2:03pm
#7
Uh...if he is the one getting
Uh...if he is the one getting paid, I wouldn't go.
I would also make it clear that if I'm in the band, then this guy doesn't get any more gigs when I am fully available to play them.
I agree with everyone else...they have a choice to make. And you have a CSS to eat. (Chicken Salad Sandwich). Welcome aboard.
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 2:50pm
#8
I don't know, man. Really
I don't know, man. Really doesn't sound bad to me.
Other bass player couldn't commit to one band. You got the job except for the one gig he was promised. You get to sit in on it. Maybe a little odd but so what? I ain't real keen on the fact that he gets paid and you don't but that sounds like a one time thing.
He wants to meet you, right? Sounds copacetic.
Nah, no drama. I'd let that slide.
Now, if it became a habit...
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 2:49pm
#9
Confused
I feel dumb going to go check out another bass player playing for the band I am supposed to be a member of.
I bet they havent even told him he has been replaced. I know they told him they didn't need him for the other 2 shows.
All this just doesn't feel right. I may just tell them to use him for all the shows and I will find soemthing else.
I just dont want to soukd like I am being a baby
Tue, 08/24/2010 - 8:54pm
#10
suck it up, princess...
Good:
You learnt a bunch of new songs
You played some shows with new people
Hopefully you got paid for the shows
Bad:
The singer can't makeup her mind.
Personally, I'd probably ask to get paid for the show, and if she says no, then say that you guess that means that you're not the bassist, right?
If she says well yes you are then say fine well if I'm the bassist, I get paid, right?
All she's trying to do is make sure that she has a bassist on tap and from what I can see, she couldn't care less whether it's you or the other guy.
Besides, you have to trave 2 hours to play a gig for no pay??
Hmm... I'd probably stay home.
Wed, 08/25/2010 - 9:04am
#11
taek the high road. Show up,
taek the high road. Show up, sit in, meet the other ugly. Then, after the gig talk to the singer and ask her if it's your gig or you'll be sharing the gig. Then make your decision based on her answer. I wouldn't go through all the hassle of learning tunes and band crap to share a gig- it's too much work for the limited stage time as it is... but that's just me!
Wed, 08/25/2010 - 10:20am
#12
Words of Wisdom
slade wrote:
taek the high road. Show up, sit in, meet the other ugly. Then, after the gig talk to the singer and ask her if it's your gig or you'll be sharing the gig. Then make your decision based on her answer.
Words of Wisdom. /thread.
Wed, 08/25/2010 - 8:10pm
#13
I have no new or alternate
I have no new or alternate advice beyond what's already been offered. I just felt the need to say the guys and gals here are brilliant citing the advice given in this thread alone... personally... I have a really hard time deciding just which excellent ugly suggestion to go with were it me... I don't envy you blahblahblah. Heck, I think they may have even made it more difficult. Now that I really think about it... actually... what a bunch of morons... I mean... jeez... personally... now I'm even MORE confused what I'd do and it's not even my predicament!!! 
Oh... yea. Welcome to the Forum. Got pics? (gear)
(really though, there's a lot of wisdome here)
Fri, 08/27/2010 - 10:45am
#14
Confused
They were getting really flakey so I cut ties with them. But, My old band is reforming and I am back in business playing with them.
Just got me an Ampeg 6 x10 used for $325.00...It rocks.
Thx for all the replies
Fri, 08/27/2010 - 10:45am
#15
Confused
They were getting really flakey so I cut ties with them. But, My old band is reforming and I am back in business playing with them.
Just got me an Ampeg 6 x10 used for $325.00...It rocks.
Thx for all the replies
Fri, 08/27/2010 - 2:20pm
#16
Naz?
Were you Blahblah???
Good to see you around these parts again, it's been awhile!
And congrats on the 6x10!
Pics????
Mon, 08/30/2010 - 12:30pm
#17
Concur
Dthraco wrote:
Uh...if he is the one getting paid, I wouldn't go.
I would also make it clear that if I'm in the band, then this guy doesn't get any more gigs when I am fully available to play them.
I agree with everyone else...they have a choice to make. And you have a CSS to eat. (Chicken Salad Sandwich). Welcome aboard.
Concur
I would ask her if she plans on having the old bassist sit in on a regular basis, or if this is just a nice way of letting him go?
30 songs in a bunch of material to learn on short notice. Nice job!